"so she’s gay now?"
yeah she turned in all the paperwork last week and her acceptance letter came this morning, it was all pretty sudden
it’s ironic because this is actually the process for mainstream society to recognize you as trans
wow thanks for making the post better but in a way that makes me sad
Honestly, I just want pole-dancing de-stigmatized, so when I take classes and people know that I can pole dance, I don’t want a constant line of people asking me if I’m a stripper, because:
1. I have zero interest in being a stripper.
2. I don’t know how to be a stipper.
3. I didn’t choose that job (its all about choice still right?)
simple as that.
Pole dancing does not automatically equate to a person being a stripper.Haha!If for some reason, the idea of your dancing being connected to the strip club scene is upsetting to you, if you desperately need to distance what you do from what those ‘other girls’ do, if you truly believe that you are doing this because it’s just a really good workout, then I strongly suggest you spend some time thinking about why you chose pole dancing. Because there are a million ways to get fit without putting on six inch stilettos, a bikini and swinging sensually around a pole.
Quote from The Pole Story.
what I think is funny is that “pole dancers” try to argue that actually pole dance originated as Mallakhamb or Chinese acrobatics, a stance apparently being promoted by non-stripper pole dancers trying to get social acceptance by affiliating with a grand tradition of like, western appropriation.
but like, the resurgence of pole work in pop culture and it’s subsequent popularity has little to do with men doing acrobatics on large wooden poles or rubber coated poles; it has EVERYTHING to do with western culture’s obsession with female bodies and commodified sexuality and more specifically and recently, strippers.
The tricks non-strippers doing so badly in their awkward shorts and splayed feet? Those are stripper moves. Strippers created performing on a brass pole, strippers popularised it, strippers TEACH IT.
and strippers get thrown under the bus now it’s been picked up, washed off, and made cool for middle class women looking for empowerment.
liking someones negative post about themselves like i don’t agree w/ u, but ur my friend and i wanna support ur feelings
I really enjoy my anon friend which is how I refer to the one anon I get that I sometimes answer but then other times don’t answer because i forget to like a jerkface.
Idk who you are friendly anon, but you’re pretty rad.
I’ve been advised against it in the past. I guess it can mark me as a trouble employee somehow? I don’t really get it, but it’s people who sort through resumes and conduct interviews for a living that have told me this so they probably know what they’re talking about?
And even without this advice, is not exactly a story I enjoy telling strangers. It involves the personal lives if a lot of different people and was a completely miserable time in my life so if I could pretend it never happened I would.